I have this friend who is constantly complaining about how terrible their life is. They say things like “I hate my job…” “my parents are a nightmare…” “my girlfriend is so frustrating…”
Constantly making remarks about how much “life sucks”…
Well, I’ve talked with this friend multiple times, trying to help or give any kind of counsel… I ask questions such as,
“what’s going on with your parents?” “why do you hate your job?” “what’s up with this girl?”
To which all the responses had a common denominator, see if you can guess…
“They just don’t understand me, and are always trying to keep me from doing what I want, making my life miserable…”
“My boss is so rude to me, always making me do the little things. There are many other workers, why me?”
“She’s just always mean to me. She never wants to do what I want to do, everything is always about her..”
That last one pretty much summed it up if you hadn’t guessed it by now.
Everything is about me, me, me, I, I, I, my, my, my with this guy. If you’re around him for more than a few minutes you notice that this is a guy that thinks highly of himself, and hardly thinks about those around him. Ya know the type, the ones who always have to be first wherever they go, or always want to pick their seat at the movies, or always have to ride shot gun, or always want to try and catch the rice first at the Japanese steak house, and then if they miss it they blame it on a ‘bad throw’…
I’ve told this guy, very gently and lovingly, that it’s quite apparent that he has a pride issue. And I’ve tried to explain to him about how he is only setting himself up to be miserable by never thinking of anyone but himself.
Proverbs 16:18 say: First pride, then the crash—the bigger the ego, the harder the fall.
I tried to explain to him, that he was never created nor intended to live a life that was anything about him…but that he was made to serve others.
Ephesians 2:10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.
You were created to do HIS work. And he is in the people business. People are what he cares about. His work, is loving, and caring, and providing for His people.
You were not made for yourself. You were made to love and serve others.
So back to my friend…I told him all of that…and he told me that he knew all of that, but that loving people is just so hard, and that there had to be some kid of key or trick to the whom thing…
I told him he was right…
I told him that the key to loving people, is to Honor people.
In Exodus 20 God commands us to honor others, namely our mother and father. This is the first of God’s commandments that has a promise attached to it.
Ephesians 6:3 “…so you will live well and have a long life.”
I told him the key to loving and serving was honor.
But see honor has a key too..
He could never honor his parents, employer, or girlfriend, as long as he was on this me, me, me,I, I, I trip…
Proverbs 29:23 Pride lands you flat on your face; humility prepares you for honors.
Humility is the key to honor, not only in receiving it, but in giving it as well.
Humility Is NOT: -self bashing -or “praising” others as better than you
Humility is: Being confident in who you are in Christ and knowing where all the glory, honor, and praise for anything good you do belongs…with Jesus.
I shared with him that if he truly wanted to honor, and love others…
the me, me, me, I, I, I had to take the back seat and that Jesus had to be center stage.
Not…what about me…
But man, how about Jesus…how great is He!?
So, can you relate? Have you been finding yourself flat on your face lately or hitting a proverbial wall with life…
Maybe it’s time for you to allow humility to prepare you for honor.
Jesus => Humility => Honor
When your life follows this equation.. God honors you…
Go ahead..try it.